Cecilia, since we're not there, we can't really say whether you have a marriage worth saving. I would never say, "Stay with your man, no matter what." Dare made some good points. We all have times where our partner may take a back seat to whatever's going on in our lives. For me, I believe it's important to have interests of your own, so you're not so dependant on your husband for all your needs. But the base of your marriage has to be solid to be able to weather the ups and downs.

Thing is, if you've never felt important to your man, ever, then you may have made the wrong choice. Everyone's different in their needs for sex, intimacy and companionship. Your man may not need the level of intimacy you do to feel connected, or he may feel it in a different way. You shouldn't have to feel you're always "putting out" and not getting anything back. You may need some professional help to mediate and get your needs heard as well as his. Some people need privacy and independence as well as connectedness and intimacy. When my husband comes home from work, he needs time to be by himself and power down from his day. I would sometimes bombard him with questions or talk about my day, because that's how I process my day, by talking. Now, I let him go off by himself for a bit and relax, then when he's ready, he's able to listen to me talk about my day and can be there for me. We have respect for what each other needs and try to be sure we're aware of that, while not always being insistent on getting exactly what we want in every moment. Each person in the relationship needs to feel important to the other, even if you're off doing separate things.

Bottom line: the marriage needs to be important to both of you. You can't carry it alone. If it is and he just needs some time to himself, get some other interests. If you're constantly feeling ignored, you may need some help with communication skills. Talk to a professional. You could just not be communicating well enough. I don't think people have to talk through every little thing, every passing feeling, but if you feel completely disconnected from him, the problem isn't about sexual attraction, it's something deeper you'll need to deal with.