...and I still haven't made that mind/soul connection within myself that I'm actually married. I guess what I mean is that it hasn't sunk in except to make me a little rebellious here and there from the subconscious cliche ball and chain concept. I love Landy and I want to be married, but how long does it take to get used to no longer having total freedom?????
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Re: It's only been 6 weeks...
Fri, July 7, 2006 - 9:27 AMHas anything ACTUALLY changed from 6 weeks ago? Honestly? Is there something you were allowed to do while engaged that you're not now? Or is it just a feeling of lack of freedom.. or the possibility of lack of freedom sometime down the road?
I ask b/c I did the same thing and came to realize that no, nothing had changed except my mindset. I think there was a little bit of panic, hey, I'm actually married! Not just talking about it, not just planning it, but I actually signed my name on the dotted line and will be with this one person for the rest of my life. (And wow, how wonderful! :-) )
I think it took me a good couple of months for it to settle in. It was after I finally got my name changed on everything and after we had our first holiday as a married couple. Then I realized that we still did the same things together and the same things apart, we still had the same bills and the same paychecks, he was still my best friend and my lover... and I was still making the decision to be with him everyday I woke up. Getting married was a statement of intention, it's obviously not set in stone no matter how much I believe our marriage will last. Does that make any sense?
I guess I just mean to say, that there is no ball and chain. You are still your own person, free to do what you will! You just get to do it all with your best friend by your side. :-) -
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Fri, July 7, 2006 - 9:30 AMThat was PERFECT! Thank you so much! -
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Fri, July 7, 2006 - 9:39 AMYour welcome! And Congrats!!!! :-) I forgot to say that earlier, lol! -
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Fri, July 7, 2006 - 5:18 PMTotally well said Eva. For me it's still sinking in and Jack and I married back in March of 2002. I still say we're "going together".. I know how silly is that but it just seems unreal to me that someone out there wants to commit to life to someone like me:)
The name change was a biggie, when my social security card and liscense came with the new name and addy on it I felt it, but it struck me one day a few weeks ago about all the cool stuff we can do as a couple! It's really beautiful that you get to experience life with a guy until your old and gray.. someone who knows you inside and out and loves you no matter what. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the miracle of complete unconditional love is so immensely beautiful that I don't think I'll ever really grasp it!
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