I agree. I'm not a big one on the religious aspects or moral judgements on marriage and sex. We've already had discussions about polyamory. For those of you who don't feel sex is anything different from having a good meal or listening to great music or having a great converstaion, go ahead, it's your perrogative. I'm not wired that way. But why, then only once? I don't get it.

The hypothetical situation mentioned here, is impossible, anyway. How could you know it would only be once. If you have sex outside your marriage once, you'll have it more than once. I can't imagine a situation where someone would ask their partner if they could have sex outside their marriage just once. Why bother if it's only once?

These hypothetical questions are meaningless. Why not ask if anyone's let their partner have sex with someone else and why. Those are more meaningful questions. No one, no matter what they may say, can really KNOW how they're going to react to something until it really happens.